I introduced you yesterday to Lindiwe, our new daughter. Our adoption became official last week Wednesday and I wanted to wait for that to share more info on Give Me Neither.
Here’s a start to what we’ve been up to for the last 3 weeks….
On Jan. 24. after meeting with Lindi’s social worker and learning a bit more about her life so far, we headed to the children’s home to meet our daughter for the first time. We tried to go into this meeting with very few expectations.
I traveled with my sister over two years ago to bring my niece home from Ethiopia. During that time about 8-10 adoptive families experienced that long awaited first meeting. What I learned is that you never know how the child will react during that first meeting. And it has nothing to do with you personally.
I’ve also learned that you never know how you’re going to react either. Sometimes it’s not the love-at-first-sight bliss that you dreamed about. There’s a lot of guarding, waiting and heart-protecting during this long process.
In our case, we looked different, smelled different and spoke an unfamiliar language. And let’s be honest…we weren’t even completely sure how to pronounce her name…Sibongile.
During the initial meeting, the decision was made to have the meeting in a separate room from the rest of the babies. It sounded like a good plan. Looking back it would have been better to stay in her territory instead of bringing her someplace else.
And what did she do when she saw all of us in the room…cried.
It really was a sweetest little cry that I’ve ever heard…scared and uncertain. And I really do treasure that moment…I’d be scared too.
After we realized that this likely wasn’t the best place for the introduction, I headed down to the baby room and Matt and the boys hung back…
I’ll share the rest of the first meeting story tomorrow.